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📚 Agora node [[non violent communication nvc]] (pulled by the Agora)

📜 File Non-Violent Communication , NVC.md by @binnyva ☆ 📎

Non-Violent Communication / NVC§

NVC§

Context: Abishek’s session at LC day 2.

Why is NVC needed?§

We don’t embrace conflict enough.
Building community + Trust
p = P - i(performance = Potential - interference)

Myths about Conflict§

Conflicts are avoidable
Conflicts are bad
Unhealthy people get into conflicts

Use of force is violence

Metta : Loving kindness

Trigger hijacks us - Abigdula/reptilian brain takes over

Reptilian brain has 4 responses

Fight
Flight
Freeze
Flurry

Identification

Body Tightens
Breath quickens
You get feelings.

When you get triggered

Pause: Slow down
Do drills(Breath, drink water)

You

Behavior(what you can see/what a camera can record)
Feelings
Needs

When I see you do this, I feel this. What I need is this. Do this with Honesty and Compassion.

What is Violence§

Language that disconnects is violence - life enhancing vs not life enhancing
- Diagnosis
- Judgement
- Analysis
- Criticism
- Comparison
- Labeling
- Denial of responsibility(You made me feel _____)
- Demand (You should/you must)
- Deserve Language

When someone is attacking, there is a need of that person that is not getting fulfilled.

Request has to be specific.

Clearing conversation, Debrief

Observation - Feelings - Needs - Request Interpretation - Judgement - No connection - Strategy -

Tags§

#communication #lc #literature-notes #mad #nvc